Couples Counselling

Couples counselling can be very effective when it comes to helping couples work through difficulties in their relationship.  Did I say can be effective?  Yes,I did.  You see, it isn’t always effective as it depends on the therapist’s training and personal development and on a couple’s willingness to grow and face difficult issues.  

   

Having said that, couples counselling can be very effective and with the right therapist and a couple who is willing to grow, it is likely to produce a far better relationship than the couple has ever experienced. Therapy can effectively address difficult and complex issues such as unfaithfulness, pornography, communication problems, and conflict over parenting, finances, sex and intimacy among others. 

As a therapist it saddens me to know that divorce statistics are soaring high and that many couples choose to live in unhappy relationships.   It doesn’t have to be this way! When in life do we learn how to do marriage well?  Building a lasting, supportive, and fulfilling relationship is one of the most important things most people will ever do, and yet it is one of the hardest things to do well.  We expect the “happily ever after” ending and assume that building a good marriage comes naturally. This is simply not true.  Building a great marriage takes a lot of hard work and a wealth of knowledge.  It requires knowing how to work through difficult issues which are in fact inevitable in any long term relationship.  Many people facing these types of problems believe that they have married the wrong person, not realising that conflict over sex and intimacy, finances, parenting and other complex issues is inevitable and very normal.

The best part is that couples don’t need to resign themselves to live with these issues or to let these issues destroy their relationship. Rather, these problems can become building blocks to discovering an extremely rewarding and satisfying marriage - a marriage that is better than most people have ever dreamed of.

  

If you are experiencing dissatisfaction in your marriage or are contemplating divorce, I urge you to take up the challenge to face these issues. You don’t have to live with them! There is nothing more rewarding and inspiring for me than seeing couples come to me at the brink of divorce and leave with a better relationship than either person knew was possible. This is why I love my work!